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The Wisdom of your Feelings
Sometimes when things in my life don’t go as I’d hoped, I find myself ruminating on it too long after the incident has passed. I mull endlessly over what I could have done differently, imagining what I would change if I could do it over, and beating myself up for my...
Living with Uncertainty
Humans love knowing. We feel safe when we feel certain and in control. So we create plans, structures and routines to help us know what comes next, and feel comfortable.
But right now, there’s so much that’s up in the air, so many unknowns, we can’t seem to find solid footing, and we definitely can’t get on with our plans. It’s no wonder that so many of us are having so much anxiety right now. Rather than get lost in all the what if’s, or push down the fears completely, I believe there is a healthier, calmer way to go on living amidst all of the current unpredictability. Here are my top 5 tips for living with uncertainty.
Everything Changes
The cycle of ups and downs, good days and bad days is never ending. Wanting things to be different than the way they are, only causes more suffering. When I let go of trying to control, and instead allow what is happening to be as it is, I feel less pain. In life’s uncomfortable moments, my go to response is usually to try and DO something to make the unpleasantness go away. But if instead, I slow down and allow myself to feel it just as it is, I know I can trust my heart to tell me what it needs.
When Overdoing Keeps You Stuck
In my former work in the corporate world, I was what you might call the “go to” person on the team. As one of the earliest members of an education technology start-up, I knew a little something about everything and I thrived in this role. As we brought in new people,...
Closing out Your Year with Clarity
Sometimes life moves so fast, it all feels like a blur. You get to the end of the year and wonder…Where did my time and energy go? What did I accomplish? What am I most proud of? What did I learn from my challenges and failures?
If I don’t take a minute to think about it, it’s gone, and I just move right on into the next year full speed ahead, missing an opportunity for reflection and growth. The truth is, I actually get to decide how I want to remember my year. I get to write the story of 2018. I do this so I can learn from it, feel great about it, and move on with a clean slate and set clear intentions for the next year. One simple way to do this is through a “Closing out your year” exercise I use with my clients to celebrate triumphs, learn from and let go of failures, before setting clear intentions for the coming year.
Why is Mother’s Day so Hard?
Why is Mother’s Day so hard? I just spent the most lovely Sunday connecting with my daughter over chocolate croissants and pedicures. We went on a lovely walk and had dinner with my parents and my sister’s family. There was laughter, good connection and plentiful...