The cycle of ups and downs, good days and bad days is never ending. Wanting things to be different than the way they are, only causes more suffering. When I let go of trying to control, and instead allow what is happening to be as it is, I feel less pain. In life’s uncomfortable moments, my go to response is usually to try and DO something to make the unpleasantness go away. But if instead, I slow down and allow myself to feel it just as it is, I know I can trust my heart to tell me what it needs.
In my former work in the corporate world, I was what you might call the “go to” person on the team. As one of the earliest members of an education technology start-up, I knew a little something about everything and I thrived in this role. As we brought in new people,...
Sometimes life moves so fast, it all feels like a blur. You get to the end of the year and wonder…Where did my time and energy go? What did I accomplish? What am I most proud of? What did I learn from my challenges and failures?
If I don’t take a minute to think about it, it’s gone, and I just move right on into the next year full speed ahead, missing an opportunity for reflection and growth. The truth is, I actually get to decide how I want to remember my year. I get to write the story of 2018. I do this so I can learn from it, feel great about it, and move on with a clean slate and set clear intentions for the next year. One simple way to do this is through a “Closing out your year” exercise I use with my clients to celebrate triumphs, learn from and let go of failures, before setting clear intentions for the coming year.
Why is Mother’s Day so hard? I just spent the most lovely Sunday connecting with my daughter over chocolate croissants and pedicures. We went on a lovely walk and had dinner with my parents and my sister’s family. There was laughter, good connection and plentiful...
Patience is an edge for me. When I feel the urge to shake things up and create, my go-to mode has always been FULL FORCE and FAST.
This mental toughness mode has served me well through the years, but I’m also aware that this mentality requires pushing and muscling through challenges.
Why is it so hard to make yourself the recipient of your own love? I believe there is nothing more important than self-love, because without it, it’s impossible to truly love others unconditionally. When I’m not taking care of myself, I get overworked and run down. Depleted and tired, I begin to resent any requests for my energy and attention. It’s tough to give when we’re empty. But, when I make time for my own physical, mental, and spiritual health and wellness there’s so much more SPACE for other people’s needs. Imagine a jar full of marbles. You are the jar, and all the demands on your life are the marbles. Marbles can be big or small, professional or personal, important or trivial, but they fill you up. Here are some tips to create more space in your jar for the things that matter most in your life.