That “Not Good Enough” Feeling
I’ve struggled with not feeling good enough. As a kid in school, I stayed up late anxiously cramming for tests or perfecting papers that I’d procrastinated writing. My “not good enough” anxiety helped me achieve, but robbed me of the deeper joy of learning, and being...
Loving the Moment You’re In
It recently occurred to me that I’ve either been in a relationship with a man or actively seeking one for most of my adult life. And yet, unlike most other things that I’ve set my mind to, the relationship part of my life has been riddled with “failures.”...
Untangling the Mess
I recently found my favorite gold dangley necklace and hoop earrings impossibly tangled together in a big unruly knot. After several hasty and unsuccessful attempts to free them from their bondage, I was desperate. So I tried a different approach. Instead of pulling...
The Wisdom of your Feelings
Sometimes when things in my life don’t go as I’d hoped, I find myself ruminating on it too long after the incident has passed. I mull endlessly over what I could have done differently, imagining what I would change if I could do it over, and beating myself up for my...